Confidence, Anxiety and Shame Issues

Building sexual confidence in young adulthood is not straightforward. Many mature men still feel anxiety about sexual performance, or shame about whether their desires are okay. They often feel distracted and disconnected during sex. Trauma can also interfere with our sexual responses. Childhood sexual abuse can leave men with shame that limits their ability to connect with partners and enjoy a full sex life.

Low sexual confidence, anxiety and shame may all lead men to avoid initiating sex or to refuse a partner’s approaches. The problem may not be a lack of desire, but the inability to express that desire.

I offer a safe place for men to communicate about their sexual selves without risk of judgement. We talk through sexual histories, identify blocks and barriers, detoxify traumatic experiences, and address habits and behaviours that no longer work. This enables them to develop greater sexual confidence, to connect with themselves and their partners, and to become agents of their own pleasure.